I honestly have no idea why getting married is referred to as tying the knot or getting hitched, there is no knot tying anywhere and definitely no hitching because it is not like you can get off. Lol!
Well, by now I expect most of you guys know Stephanie or you may know her by her other name Kitty Walker. If you guessed if she is the brain behind most of the beautiful shots on this blog then you are correct. I am dedicating this entire blog post to her and to love.
It started on the 19th of August with the traditional wedding, which was a mix of two cultures making the wedding rich in tradition. Stephanie is Igala and Bimbo her husband is Yoruba. So much happened, there was a lot of dancing as you would expect at a wedding, the food, oh my goodness the food. There was too much food to overflowing, so much drinks! We were asked to go for another round but we couldn’t after having that much food. Stephanie’s mum was a good organiser I will give her that. Such a smart woman little wonder, an apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
Let us not go ahead of ourselves. Well before the food, Tradition demands the bride makes an entrance with her friends dancing to any music of their choice while going round and greeting her soon-to-be in-laws as well as her family. The bride wore a gorgeous shade of green lace to do this ritual. We quickly made an exit back to the house so the bride can change into her main outfit for the event. She wore all white lace which I thought was classy, you just can’t go wrong with all white for a traditional wedding, I doubt it is possible.
Rewind to the 18th of August. I was in Abuja (at Stephanie’s parents house) on the 17th. Morning of the 18th Steph and I went to get our nails and hair did, well just her hair. Meanwhile her friends all organised a surprised bridal shower all thanks to Oge her resourceful maid of honour. I kept the girls updated as to how far the nails and hair was going. Steph’s sister Rose met us at the salon (she was also in on the surprise shower). Then another friend of ours Bunmi met us at the salon also. Rose had told Steph they would go for a photoshoot together and asked her to wear blue jeans and white top; it was the dress code. We drove down to the venue and Bunmi drove discretely behind us, all the while asking me to be sure she wasn’t spotted. On getting to the venue, behold all her friends dressed in blue and white screamed SURPRISE!!! A phase of laughter and excitement eroded and the shock on Stephanie’s face made all the planning worth it. There was so much food, laughter, stories about meeting the bride, prayer and advice from married friends.
Fast forward to 19th, second dress, traditional wedding. We escorted the bride with a dance and as the Igala tradition demands, the bride sat on a mat with some friends later joined by Bimbo and some friends too. The elders prayed on them and gave them blessings and marital advise.
At the end of the traditional wedding, culturally she should move to the grooms house but because they were both christians, she had to wait the next day for the church wedding. We all checked in to A&E luxury apartments, a gorgeous hotel owned by the groom’s father. It is on the way to the airport I guess so next time when you are in Abuja, it is worth lodging there; it is actually an amazing hotel.
Saturday 20th August was the big day and I must give it to Stephanie so far she is the most calm bride I ever came in contact with. She was calm and thoughtful, she actually let all her bridemaids choose their preferred styles as far as it made us happy she was happy. On the morning of the wedding her zipper developed a fault – I panicked and I noticed she was calm much to my surprise. She didn’t at any point go ‘bridezilla’ on us which was impressive and made everything exciting.
The reception was grand and super classy. I know I haven’t been to many weddings but hands down it is one of the best I have been to if not the very best! After dancing with the couple to their seats at the reception venue, we rushed back to our hotel rooms to do a few things and just next to the lift was this beautiful mirror which we used for this photo even though it wasn’t as clear because of the lighting in the hotel.
Throughout Sunday morning we had breakfast and then back to the hotel room I shared with Stephanie before the wedding and we chatted and chatted and chatted away. I couldn’t believe that just 2 nights before, as we sat around a table for her bridal shower I didn’t know anyone of these ladies and how so easily we blended. Folake our friend from this photoshoot was supposed to be here but she had to be in England so some important stuff and couldn’t make it. These women you see above are strong independent women. Not the I-don’t-need-a-man independent but they are smart, classy and articulate. We agreed on so many things and I see why Stephanie kept them as friends since high school.
We should all leave by Sunday evening but this meeting was too good to come to an end so soon and so we spent one more night unplanned. The highlight of the evening was when we had to cook noodles and eggs for dinner. We went to the super market and got indomie noodles, spices and some eggs. Grace’s house (one of the bridesmaid) was close by so we stopped and got onions, cutlery and pepper. We were able to prepare the meal as the kitchen in the hotel apartment was furnished with all essentials. We also got some suya.
It was all fun and exciting until we had to leave back to work Monday morning. I really enjoyed writing this as it was as if I was re-living it, I hope you enjoyed it too.
To Stephanie and Bimbo we wish a happy married life.
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